Thursday, January 14, 2010

Down and Dumpy

Down and Dumpy

Works Cited
cord dress: old navy
beige thermal: hand me down
belt: anthro (gift)
scarf: charlotte russe maybe?
leggings: thrifted
socks: j crew
boots: ll bean

Friends, I have to admit I'm having one of those days--I feel mopey and lumpy and dumpy--and I think it's the fault of this dress, which I scooped up on sale thinking it would be perfect for crisp fall and cold winter days. It is this great plum-colored corduroy, it has awesome sleeves that roll up and sweet buttons down the front, but it is just not made for a woman's body. It is this square-shaped sack that's too short and I'm always having to pull it down and the waist is all saggy and it hits at an unflattering spot on my legs and I just feel all scroogy and annoyed and lumpy-dumpy in it.

And yet, I still pull it out of my closet because it looks cozy and I think, "Maybe this time I can pull it off." But no.

Please someone tell me this happens to you, too, so that I feel less alone in my "I should really wear this and yet it makes me feel dumpy every time I do" guilt. I don't have to love it, right?

24 comments:

Chelsea said...

You definitely do not have to love it! Even if 5 million people compliment you, it's all about how YOU feel. I honestly think it looks marvelous on you (and does not look too short with the opaque tights! and the belt makes the waist defined), but in the end all that matters is how you feel :)

btw, thanks for the feel well wishes!

bookwaif said...

Life's too short to wear clothes that make you feel less than fabulous. Can you do something with it? Make it into a skirt? A tote bag? A cushion? Or maybe donate it to a charity shop or women's shelter? These are all things I've done with clothes that make me feel "scroogy" (Fantastic word, by the way. Definitely OED material.)

Emily Kennedy said...

That totally happens to me. My advice is: any time you have assigned the words saggy and unflattering to a garment, you need to get it out of your closet. It's in there stinkin' up the place and breeding guilt that will smack you in the face when you open your closet doors. What a mean dress!

I think it looks cute, but it doesn't matter what I think, because when it feels that way to you, it's doing you no favors.

Also, although it's cute, it is a mite short. So yeah, back to my original sentiment: that dress is a bad influence on your general well being.

S@sha said...

I think it looks cute on you, but if it taunts you from your closet and makes you feel guilty, just give it to charity! That totally happens to everyone-- especially when you buy something because its on sale or really cheap, as opposed to thinking it looks great in the dressing room. I say that because I tried that dress on at Old Navy and really wanted to like it, but I also thought it was too short, and it just looked weird on me. One of my goals over the last year or so has been to become a more conscientious shopper so that I can stop having closet guilt!

By the way, I don't think I've commented here before, but I've been reading for a couple of months. Hello!

kateohkatie said...

I tried on that exact dress in my local Old Navy a few months ago, and I know exactly what you mean. Cute in idea, SOooooooo not right in execution. Plus the shoulders were too tight on me, and hello? I'm not exactly a linebacker here. Just badly designed, I think.

(Though maybe there's a short-legged, super-narrow-shouldered girl out there who's absolutely in LOVE with her awesome Old Navy dress, and thinks it's the best thing ever. Maybe.)

S@sha said...

I do think that you could easily split the side seams and hem it up a couple of inches and turn it into a cute tunic to wear with skinny jeans.

Sal said...

I'm with bookwaif. I bet you can make something out of this. Get out the scissors and start hacking!

And my gosh, lady, we've ALL had those days and we've ALL got those garments ...

What Would a Nerd Wear said...

whew, you guys have made me feel so much better already! i am going to take my scissors to it, especially because a tunic seems like a much more doable garment...just what to do about those pockets...

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piglet said...

You are not alone!!!
Some items of clothing just make you feel horrid, usually no one else can see it (I think the dress looks cute!) But if it makes you feel horrible it has to go!

A-C said...

aww chickie! Even though you feel lumpy and dopey, you look pretty darn cute! And no, you don't have to love everything you have. But if you're not loving it, maybe you should think about giving it away or donating it? Just a thought.

Jilliebeanie said...

It's a very cute, casual dress. And I think it's cute on you. But I do know what you mean...

Though the weather my not permit right now, have you ever tried it with heels? Sometimes all I have to do is take the shoes up a notch to feel better about an otherwise 'dumpy' outfit.

When all else fails...consign or donate.

orchidsinbuttonholes said...

I agree with the above commenters - I think this dress has great details, but if you're not feeling it, something needs to change with it. I think even changing hemline might alter the way you feel about it, and would be an easy enough fix before you spend more time on it. I really love it layered over the long sleeved tee, and LOVE that scarf with it. Don't let that dress get you down!

But oh my goodness this certainly happens to me! There are some things I have that I really liked at one point, but that consistently do not work on me in the way I want them to. Since I'm on a break from shopping, I'm trying to pull those items from my closet and either get them altered so they work or bring them to Goodwill.

C said...

It looks OK, but it is short for cold weather. Maybe wear pants or a skirt under it? Or give it too a friend who is 5 feet tall...

myedit said...

Yup, totally happens to me. And then you feel guilty for never wearing the offending piece, try it all over again and hate it. I have made the decision to consign those pieces because no matter how pretty they are on a hanger, they don't make me feel good.
I do think, we are overly critical of ourselves, because I actually do like the dress and the socks are super good too!

La Historiadora de Moda said...

I'm with the majority here. You look adorable, but if the dress makes you feel dumpy, you need to dump it! Try selling it or donate it to Goodwill.

The Closet of Kim (ShopKim) said...

You absolutely do not have to love it! If you don't, you don't. Get rid of it, get it out of your closet. It's only going to stress you out. I've had those items before too and I usually just move it to another closet for a long time. If I still don't want to wear it a year or two later than it goes.

JPey said...

i bought the exact same dress, in the exact same color, and experience the EXACT same frustration every time i take it out. when i wear it over the tights the cordoroy bunches up, making the short dress even shorter. i think maybe i miiiight be able to pull it off when it gets warmer, no tights and with flats. maybe?

or maybe i'm doing that irrational thing again where i delude myself into thinking that *this time* it'll work.

fromsneakerstostilettos said...

I had one of those days today as well!
You wrote it so well!

Elaine said...

That totally happens to me! And then I go home and change! lol! You shouldn't wear it if it doesn't make you happy!! I think you look great though!

So glad you're back to posting! :)


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Jenny said...

If you want to try making it a shirt or skirt, go for it! Otherwise, give it away. You don't need to experience clothes guilt! (And I know exactly what you mean about that - Made a bad purchase, but just can't justify getting rid of it yet...)

fidele said...

I bought it, too. My problem was that, with tights, it keeps riding up and is too short. With taller boots it looks good. . .

But, some day, I plan to wear it as a tunic with jeans. That's how I tried it on originally. Try that! Belting seems to make it even shorter, too.

daisychain said...

I had one of those days yesterday. Feel better

Kari said...

You certainly don't look lumpy - not at all. I love the courduroy dress on you. It looks great with the long sleeve top & scarf underneath (and cozy, too.)

However, if it is fussy and just doesn't make you feel good, don't keep it! Maybe you can search for something similar that makes you feel more confident in it.

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